What to say...

Sometimes I find myself debating about saying something and not. I used to not put much thought into my words. Thanks to a close friend who challenged me on that I have come to realize how much damage I can do by not putting some thought to my choice of words. Now over time, I can't help but wonder if maybe I have gone too far in the other direction. Now in an effort to make myself clearly understood I can at times take too much time thinking and then the moment for a response is gone and the conversation has moved on. Or if I do say something I might reiterate my point several times to ensure that my message was understood as it was intended. This annoys some people, since I tend to be extremely detail oriented and point out the exact meaning I intended, which can sometimes spill over into over analyzing what others are saying.

Well the whole point of starting this blog was to talk about the times when I am not sure I should speak up. When I am thinking if I should open my mouth, I wonder; "Is this something that they need to hear?", "How will they react?","Have I earned the right to say something to this person or is our relationship not there yet?","Will it build them up spiritually, even if it hurts emotionally?", "Am I wanting to say something because it is really me who has a problem, yet I want to point out their's?", "Do I clearly understand all the facts or is my perception of the situation off base?". There are so many more questions I can go through.

Does anyone else do this type of thing? Do you find it to be a good or bad thing if you do it?

Just Curious.